Say “Yes” to Receiving
October 30th, 2008Yesterday I was going to the car with my arms full and I asked my 19 year old nephew to assist me. I said something like, ‘it’s always a nice thing to be aware if someone needs help.’ Of course he was willing, but he said something I found shocking, but not surprising. He said that recently a young woman told him that Chivalry was dead! Moreover, he commented that when he tries to do something for girls, they usually say something like, “What?! You don’t think we can do it ourselves?!”
This made me feel sad! Why? Because Chivalry and receiving assistance requires a woman to be receptive, which is actually one of the most important attributes of the Feminine. Are young girls so removed from their feminine that they don’t know how to receive anymore? Of course this not only diminishes the feminine, it affects the masculine too. When a woman won’t be receptive and in her feminine, a man cannot be in his masculine. So, this contributes to the de-feminizing of women and the de-masculating of men! By contrasts, when a woman connects to her feminine and receives, she also supports the man in being in his masculine. It’s a win-win!
Receptivity is really the core of being in our feminine, and it’s one of the foundations of the BodyFreedom teachings. The question I get so often is… how? HOW do we connect to the Feminine? HOW do we receive from others? From ourselves? The key lies in connecting to our own body! Most of us separate and detach from our bodies, and when we do this we don’t know how to receive, nurture, or connect in a way that is fulfilling and satisfying.
We addressed this question in last weekend’s workshop on Embracing Your Feminine Power. The focus of the day was connection, and as we connected deeply into our bodies, some very interesting revelations came forward about the Feminine and Receiving. As we moved our attention from the heart/chest area down to the solar plexus region (en route to the Feminine Heart Center in the pelvis), the energy in the room became very thick and stagnant. It was clear we had reached a place of blockage and struggle. As we processed through this area, moving and supporting each other in partnership, a cascade of tears and releases came, first slowly then with great intensity. Following this process, the women revealed their experiences:
-One woman became aware of how she had blocked the pathway of her feminine energy flow (her receptivity) through her belly area. She was able to feel and release the pain of all the “shoulds”, the judgements, the busyness, the over-doing, which had kept her from connecting to the resovoir of her feminine energy - her receptivity, connection, nurturing, fluidity, flexibility.
-Another woman identified the contractions in her belly area as the blocks that stop her from connecting to her feminine. She was able to find the spaces in and around this blockage in her solar plexus which opened up a pathway to feeling and accessing her feminine power.
-One younger women realized how numb she had been in this area. She too became aware that the blockages in her belly and solar plexus area had prevented her from connecting to her Feminine Heart Center, her womb, and therefore her power.
It was fascinating to witness the the ways we block these passageways to the place where our feminine power resides - in our bodies and our lives. And even MORE fascinating to witness these blocks dissolving, releasing and opening though movement, awareness, and intention, allowing us to move deeply into the heart of the feminine. To feel the pleasure of the body again, and to listen to its messages about what we need to become aware of right now on our path of healing. To allow ourselves to receive our own flow and our own sensations. When we are in our feminine, we are connected to our body, and vice versa. This is true for both men and women.
So as we open and clear these pathways in our physical and energetic bodies, we connect with the heart of our power and new possibilities, new openings, new insights, expanded awareness emerge. This was a healing journey for each of the women at the workshop, and it’s a journey I invite every single one of you to take! As one participant put it, “I knew I was separated from my body, and I knew the wisdom was in my body… but I hadn’t had the experience of how to bring them together. And it was like ‘oh wow’ this is how it really is, taking it from the intellectual to integrating it within me.”
The journey into the body is always rich, always rewarding, always surprising! Jump on in, allow yourself to experience your feminine energy, allow yourself to feel into your body, allow yourself to connect, and above all allow yourself to receive… And next time someone holds a door for you or offers assistance, say yes!