What Can Be Revealed

As you know my focus is on women and women who want to feel more empowered in their life, and women who want to be leaders of their own lives and are feeling stuck somewhere in their business, relationships or health.

Today I thought I would share with you about one of my clients who wanted just that.  She is an older woman, still working in her profession and truly a dynamic person who has lived a full life. She sought me out because she was feeling dis-empowered and noticed she was losing her vitality.

She has been coming in for awhile and we have worked through a number of issues,  and today I asked her on a scale of 1 – 10 how she was doing, and she said when she started with me she was at a 2/10 and now she is feeling 7 – 8/10.  She feels more alive, less aggravated, more alert and has energy to go out with friends, doing things again, and enjoying her work more fully.

However her balance has still not returned to normal (one of the physical issues she came in with) and so today we took a deep dive into an issue she was having with her balance and what we found reinforced to me that the body holds the wisdom and always reveals what we need to know

10 years ago she suffered from shingles, which was excruciating for many months. This ultimately healed yet since then she has found that she never regained her full strength and slowly her balance has decreased.  What her body revealed was that her right sciatic nerve still lives in terror of this pain of the shingles and so is literally immobilizing her. What her body revealed was that her legs want to move, her feet feel solid on the ground, and she has this amazing strength in her abdomen area (solar plexus) but her legs are weak, particularly the upper legs.

So her source of the issue was from the sciatic nerve that was still stuck thinking she was going to get excruciating pain any minute again, even though it has been gone for 10 years. By uncovering the source she now has the opportunity to change the experience literally bringing the sciatic nerve up to the present day, and not live in fear of the pain returning.

Then and only then can she re-engage the legs to move the way they want to move.

I have seen this work over and over again and it so inspiring to me!

My client left feeling the power and connection to her body like she has never done before and it has given her the confidence to stand more strongly in who she is. It was such a delight to see her leave with a deeper spring in her step, and the sparkle in her eye.

My wish is we all have the courage, commitment and determination she does. Yes, she is aging but she is not “giving up”. She wants to live fully, with vitality,  energy and not feel at ransom for something that was holding her back.

The Journey Downward

I am now in my own sanctuary at home in LA after having slept in 7 different beds while I was away. It was a magnificent and bitter-sweet journey and I am left with a feeling of deep love, gratitude and heartache.

The primary reason for this trip, set in motion over a year ago, was to be at my Goddaughter’s wedding. As other events in my life unfolded, I needed to add to this trip a time to continue to sort out my mother’s affairs.

My goddaughter, Carina was married on her family property called Mutmutbilli, in Breadalbane, and it was a true country Australian wedding! I arrived 3 days before ‘the big day’ to help with the set up and to be a support for my friend Sall, who I have known since I was 16. She and her husband Angus pulled out all the stops and it was the most beautifully thought out and orchestrated wedding, with a year’s worth of preparation, and I felt so blessed and honoured to be there.

The sad part for me was that I did not have Mum to share it all with, and she would have loved to have heard about it, seen the pictures, and enjoyed the stories I would have relayed about each day. I felt her absence deeply in all the joy.

What I am noticing is as my friend’s parents age or pass on that our friendships are becoming more important to us. I don’t know what I would do without my oldest friends, certainly now. They truly been there for me, and I saw most of them again this trip at various times, and what I am aware of is that what I receive from them is so much more than I could ever imagine!

There is no doubt to me the more I become present, real and express my feelings in a soft and truthful way, I get so much more in return in ways I cannot even imagine. If I had not allowed the experience of ‘the journey downward’ and travelled inward, I know I would not be able to receive and take in what is given to me on a daily basis. I find my life to be rich, exciting and full of heart, even with my pain and confusion right now.

This week I am posting an excerpt from Pema Chödrön, a women I admire and whose teachings I resonate with. I have also included a video interview with her and Bill that is worth the time to listen to.


Excerpt from: When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chödrön, pages 91-92

Spiritual awakening is frequently described as a journey to the top of a mountain. In the process of discovering bodhichitta [the awakened heart], the journey goes down, not up. It’s as if the mountain pointed toward the center of the earth instead of reaching into the sky. Instead of transcending the suffering of all creatures, we move toward the turbulence and doubt. We explore the reality and unpredictability of insecurity and pain, and we try not to push it away. If it takes years, if it takes lifetimes, we let it be as it is. At our own pace, without speed or aggression, we move down and down and down. With us move millions of others, our companions in awakening from fear. At the bottom we discover water, the healing water of bodhichitta. Right down there in the thick of things, we discover the love that will not die.

If you would like more of Pema Chödrön watch this interview with Bill Moyer on Reason and Faith: VIDEO


Have a great week!

In Business and in Life

Right now I am sitting in my friend’s lounge room in Sydney, Australia as we recover from a big day of celebrating The Melbourne Cup. It is quite a day as it is “the race that stops the nation”.   Interestingly there was a horse that was racing that was trained by a former client of mine when I had my practice in Australia and so of course I put a few dollars on the horse ($5 to be exact!) and WON!

What is also wonderful is that this day brings Australians together, and that is exactly what 8 of us did here at my friend’s place, hats and all (Melbourne Cup is known for the hats that are worn, or Fascinators which is a form of a hat).  It was so much fun to be with friends and be part of an Australian national event again.

This week I am sharing something a bit different and it will appeal to those of you in business for yourself, although many of the points can be adapted to your life either way.

Hope you enjoy it and let me know what you receive from reading it.

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11 Things You Need to Know…



The world is hungry for this…

What I know to be true and I see it over and over again, is that the world is hungry for a part of us that we as women often keep hidden.

Women in general are such good care givers and we are always thinking of something or someone else. Which is good, as long as we are accessing the giving from the deep well within us.

The only true way to do this is by reaching into our bodies for this connection.

We as women need this body connection and we will not find our connection to our beautiful, gently powerful self any other way…

How do you access the fullness of your connection to yourself?

Are You Exhausted?

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So often with clients I witness a deep level of fatigue and exhaustion. Usually the fatigue comes from a place inside where there is a struggle and they cannot find a resting place within.


I notice that when I am feeling confused, stuck, self critical, pushing myself and not listening to my inner- knowing and following it, then I can wake up tired, feel exhausted during the day, and have no energy.


When I am “fighting” myself or “holding it all together” and not resting into myself, I then create an internal fight that leads to me feeling even more exhausted.


I hear so many of my clients say that they are putting their best foot forward and doing all the right things for themselves, and still they are deeply tired and don’t know how to get past it.


What I have found really works is if I can allow myself to sink into the exhaustion.  To let myself go with it, breath into it, allow it to be present and not push it away-  literally rest into it or give into it.


This allows the part of myself that is tired to be felt.


Hopefully you tried the exercise in the video (if you haven’t watched it yet, take a look and try the simple exercise), even if you are not feeling tired, fatigued, exhausted outwardly often when we take the time to stop and feel within we will find that place that does want to rest.  So many of us are living with a deep level of fatigue.


If we want to be leaders of our own lives and live with a sense of peace and calm then we must take time to feel into those parts of us that are overworking, tired, and fatigued. Will you give yourself some time now to stop resisting rest and feel into the tiredness you have? I know fear can come up when you think about resting into ourselves because your might think, “what if I cannot hold it together, I have too much to do today.”


What I do know to be true is that when I take time to feel into this place I feel calmer, and more refreshed.  When I can acknowledge and rest into myself and sink into the fatigue it gives me a chance to let my being rejuvenate, like putting some gas in the tank.


I know when I was suffering from a deep level of fatigue it took working with my coach / therapist to look at what that fatigue was about.  If you find you are in that place of internal exhaustion then please send me an e-mail and we can set up a time to talk about it.   I find working with this part of ourselves is so revealing and healing.


Have a great week and am looking forward to connecting with you next week.


Much love,




Please leave a comment on what you experience with this exercise.  I love hearing from you!